Happy Anniversary
Today is my 45th wedding anniversary!
In a recent substack post, Paul Sanders talks about about falling in and out of love with photography. His words speak not only to a relationship with a camera and a photographic practice, but also to a romantic relationship. Read something as someone, and you will see what I mean.
“Falling out of step with something that once held you rarely has much to do with the something itself. More often it’s a sign that life has moved on, and you’ve moved with it, so the old way in simply doesn’t fit the shape you’ve become. That’s worth treating as information to help you rather than a verdict on your ability.”
Our marriage endures and our love remains steady. At 45 years of marriage, we know well the realities of a long partnership. We know that love does not survive unless it is well-tended. We understand that sometimes we grow apart, and finding that connection again requires determination and commitment. We stay together because we are vulnerable and genuine. We fight it out when needed (rupture), and on the best days, we find our way back to each other (repair), in love in a different way. Solid partnerships are not so much about communication as they are about connection.