A Labor of Love

Even though things could be easy, or at least, easier, I often do things the hard way. I grew up with admonitions like never put off till tomorrow what you might do today, there’s no such thing as a shortcut and anything worth having is worth working for or waiting for. I can’t accurately pinpoint where or how these ideas were imprinted upon me. Likely some combination of Sunday School lessons and the indoctrination that came with being a “good little girl.”

I’ve managed to shake off a lot of that way of thinking. At least, the part where “good” is the goal. The focus on being good led me to be more concerned with how I looked than how I actually lived. Not a pretty picture.

But still, I love the quilt that took me hundreds of hours to hand stitch over the one that I can buy at Target for $50. I adore the custom handmade solid maple bookshelf in our den that was a big splurge. I mostly cook at home rather than takeaway. The question is — how do we stay active in world where the structure is built to make us passive?

I honestly can’t remember the last time I saw another person carrying a camera. I don’t mean analog versus digital. I mean a camera that wasn’t part of a mobile phone. I do not mean to imply that you cannot be actively involved in creative work with a smart phone camera. Of course, you can. But the structure of the smart phone camera is designed to make taking photographs quick and easy and simple. And there is nothing easy about lugging around a Single Lens Reflex or Medium Format camera. There is nothing quick about manual focus or exposure setting. Nothing simple about packing, carrying, setting up a tripod. But all of that effort is exhilarating.

Things made by hand, with effort, are labors of love. And I think we humans like things hard. On some deep level, we understand and feel that hard work is good for us. It makes us whole. Helps us appreciate the joys and withstand the sorrows.

The Soft Way

Undulations of the Light, Spring 2026, Port Royal, Virginia

I would share every single poem that James Crews writes and shares in The Weekly Pause, but it seems more straightforward to send you directly to the source. These poems arrive in free weekly emails (scroll to the bottom of the page to subscribe). This week, James shares his poem The Soft Way and offers these thoughts.

It seemed the secret to all of life, even when we are caught or stuck—to let our soft selves be moved by whatever forces must pass through us, without the usual resistance and hesitation. “Don’t hesitate,” Mary Oliver once famously said. “Joy is not made to be a crumb.” But we must be willing to soften into our wonders and joys in order to more fully receive them.
— James Crews, The Weekly Pause

GeeGee's Garden

The rural roads of Virginia are dotted with small farm stands where eggs are still $3.00/dozen. Most of them operate with an honor system for payment. The produce varies from season to season. The stands are makeshift; this one is made from an old door (I can still see the hinges attached). Many are named after family and reflect the commitment family farmers have to feeding their neighbors.

Farm Fresh, Eggs for Sale, Caroline County, Spring 2026

Stepping off the Treadmill

I love trying new things, keeping my options open, and staying curious. But too many new things can be overwhelming, too many options feels like a recipe for unhappiness, and curiosity overdone seems like a never-ending quest for answers. Sometimes I just want to stop worrying about missing out and experience the freedom of loving what I already have.

When have I found joy in stepping off the “upgrade treadmill”?

  • loving my husband for 45 years, and doing all the work to keep the relationship healthy

  • taking pictures with the used camera I bought in 2017 and loving the way it feels in my hands

  • driving a 2010 model car with over 200,000 miles on it and treating her like she’s my best friend

  • living in the same house for 41 years and making it a place of light and laughter and comfort

  • holding onto a smart phone that is not new but paid off

  • smiling at my own reflection, gray hair and wrinkles, knowing full well that upgrades happen from within

  • feeling satisfied with home-cooked meals, an analog watch, and visits to the library all of which help to keep spending in check, one way or another

  • avoiding wellness programs and plans that always seem to be trying to sell me some better version of myself and letting go of the fear that I might die; because, well, I will.