From Here to There

I’ve made it my intention to continue to seek and offer friendship as I grow older. This is how I came to meet Kate. I saw her photographs exhibited in a local art gallery and something in her work resonated deeply with me. One day, I ran into her at the gallery and took the time to tell her how much I admired her work. I felt an instant connection and followed up with an invitation for coffee and photo-talk. This is the story of how two people became dear friends. Working on a collaborative photography project. In the middle of a pandemic.

I took a photo and sent it to Kate. She took one in response. Back and forth we went, sending photographs and messages — like letters between pen pals.

The pictures were taken between July 2020 and July 2021 with no set schedule, no strict rules, and no authorship assigned. This is a sample of the project.

To see the completed project, take a look at the book.

July 4, 2020 — Let’s get started!
Hi Kate,
I'm excited to start our back and forth project, but I respect that you might be deep into other work. I can wait— haha! First of all, I'm almost scared to send the first photo. Maybe it will be like making pancakes—where you always have to throw out the first one or two! I don't know whether we will want to just let the pictures speak for themselves, one after the other, or whether we might want to write a single sentence, short paragraph or even a line or two of poetry to go along with each other's photo. It seems we should leave the images untitled so as not to bias each other as we springboard off of each other's work. I do think it would be fun to come up with a name for the project. I don't think we need to add deadlines or any rules. I'd like to approach this project with a sense of curiosity and fun.
Ideas?
No pressure. It just makes me happy to work with you.
xo, Donna
PS In case you're up to start, I'm going to attach picture no.1 here!

July 10, 2020
Hi Donna! Happy Friday!!
Whew. So I gotta tell you. This was, in some ways, tougher than I thought it’d be. But also, even more enjoyable!! I absolutely LOVE the way it made me really consider your image, and think through the picture I wanted to make. What’s funny is, I made a total of four images, and the one that I ended up choosing was sort of an accident! But I’m also a big believer in the subconscious making things happen for us, and so in that regard I don’t think it was an accident at all. :)
Hope you have a wonderful weekend, and looking forward to our chat Monday afternoon!
Hugs, Kate

Considering project titles.

Working title, From Here to There. Exploring how change transpires through a sequence of ordinary moments. Appreciating the feeling of impermanence. And the beautiful possibility that there is a path from a bad place to a good place. Just because we cannot see the path doesn't mean it isn't there. Here is a fine starting place.

Imagining a finished project. And setting a goal.

July 15, 2020 - Is that your final answer?
Hi Kate,
I happened upon a strategy that is helping me to decide on my favorite response picture (I often take several and I know you do, too). I am creating a mock photo book, or on days I want to sound smart, a maquette. I’m going old school with paper and scissors, a pencil and tape runner. Printing our photos using my laser printer, cutting them out, and pasting them on the pages in order. Adding in excerpts from our emails and a little of the backstory on my pictures, too. Maybe we will design and print a photo book as our finished project? Do you think we could keep this project going for an entire year?
xoxo, Donna

Making way for our project and our friendship in a year with lock-downs, sheltering-at-home, and quarantines. Meeting outside on Kate's patio, 6 feet-apart, for conversation, coffee, and croissants. Phone calls and texts and more messages. Not just about the project, but about art and music and books and life.

July 21, 2020
Kate, I know it’s not my best technical effort but somehow it seems very real and very much about these times where we must make pictures where we are with what we have.
I’m attaching photo #7.
Hugs, Donna
PS You make the best biscuits!

December 6, 2020 – Photo 23
Hi Kate,
I had an idea of a response right away . . . I have a small collection of polaroid photos my Dad took when I was a kid, about 7 or 8 years old. There is one where we took a family vacation to Miami, Florida in the cold month of January. We were invited to stay with some nice people, Mr. and Mrs. Doulan, who visited my parent's restaurant, Parker's Crab Shore, in Colonial Beach. Anyway, we were feeding the seagulls - my father, me and a little girl who was the grandchild of our hosts. I have always loved this picture for a million little reasons. I knew I wanted to include the photo in my response, and I'm happy with the result.
xoxo, Donna

December 14, 2020 – Photo 24
Attached. :)
Time for roasted marshmallows later this week? Thursday is our last day of school until after the holidays, and I would love to celebrate soon! :)
Big hugs!! Kate

December 20, 2020 — Merry Christmas and Photo 25
Hi Kate,
I had fun with my response to your photo #24. The day I dropped off the cookies, that rainy and cold and dark day, I had been to my friend Teresa's home to work on an idea. I wanted to take a photo of her playing her piano. I love her dearly and I love how much she loves music and that beautiful piano in her home. (The funny thing is she doesn't play really well, but that piano kind of represents her longing and she gives it a place of honor in her home). Anyway, I got a beautiful picture . . . exactly what I had in mind. It's grainy in all the right ways and it feels like a beautiful response to your picture - the love of music.
Talk soon, Donna

I admit that sometimes this pandemic and its requirement for isolation has felt like a relief. A kind of get-out-of-jail free card that allowed me to say No to social obligations and expectations. I've had time to step back and evaluate just what works for me, and that's been positive. But I also realize that isolation can easily become hiding and avoiding which are only a few steps away from loneliness and despair. And there's a long uphill climb out of that pit.

This project, From Here to There, is about more than photography. It's about taking chances and reaching out and opening up. I'm always excited to see Kate's response picture. Part of the fun comes from the fact that we do live in the same area, and I love seeing how she sees our home. There are so many directions to go and ways to link the pictures so they connect—in both obvious and not so obvious ways. And truly, I don't think they need to connect at all—only that they be a response. And a response is often only a feeling, a whisper, a calling. Our responses are honest and authentic and they are a solid foundation for a new friendship. Good friends are the best thing in the world.